(This is NOT Bug. But, hopefully, Bug will cooperate for this next ultrasound.)
Next week I am scheduled to go Bug's anatomy scan. This is a fairly important ultrasound for a lot of reasons. They check to make sure that everything is developing right, that Bug is right on track, and they will give us an "official" due date (we plan on ignoring this totally, because Bug will determine when they are ready to come out). This is also the ultrasound that they typically tell you the sex of the baby.
This is what is causing some major issues for us. We are so torn about finding out what sex Bug is. AJ is in the camp to wait until Bug is born, and I keep wavering back and forth. I would love to be surprised, but I would also like to know for a couple of reasons.
I would love to be able to buy some things that are more specific than what I have been picking up. I would like to have some cute newborn outfits for Bug that aren't yellow or green... I am not sure I am willing to admit I would want to have pink outfits (I am not a real pink person), but purple or something would be nice.
Also, I haven't been as excited about this pregnancy as I want to be. I have been really clinical about a lot of it. It has been easier to ignore the whole situation because it doesn't seem real or like a person. A lot of that has to do with the fact that right now Bug is nothing but a statistic - so many heart beats per minute, so many inches, so many weeks, and so many numbers. These make it really hard for me to relate to Bug being a person, I almost feel like I need a lab notebook to track Bug instead of a baby book. Combine this with the fact that I have been fairly sick and it hasn't been an excitingly positive thing so far.
Please don't take my lack of overt excitement as a sign I don't want to be pregnant and that I am not grateful or anything. I am just not good at dealing with being sick or waiting. I wish Bug was already here - healthy and happy. I do much better when things are actually here and not still abstract concepts in my tummy.
So, I guess all this is to say, what would you do? If you found out what you were having, then why did you do it? If you didn't find out, why not? I am looking for some good reasons other than it makes it easier for other people.
I will say, even if we find out I am not sure we are going to tell anyone until later on in the pregnancy... maybe 30 weeks or so. We have been referring to Bug as a gender neutral "he" for our own sake. This doesn't mean we are hoping anymore for a boy or a girl, we just didn't like saying "it."